perf(gateway): scale request hot paths for 20k streams

Shard and singleflight hot-path caches, batch and prioritize candidate and usage lifecycle persistence, and extend database and pressure-test instrumentation for 20k concurrent streams.

apps/aether-gateway/src/handlers/admin/observability/monitoring/activity.rs

@@ -191,8 +191,7 @@ pub(super) async fn build_admin_monitoring_system_status_response(
     .unwrap_or(usize::MAX);
     let tunnel = state.tunnel.stats();
     let usage_counter_snapshot = state
-        .data
-        .read_usage_counter_health()
+        .read_cached_usage_counter_health()
         .await
         .map_err(|err| GatewayError::Internal(err.to_string()))?;
     let usage_counter =

apps/aether-gateway/src/handlers/admin/observability/stats/analytics_routes.rs

@@ -29,8 +29,7 @@ async fn build_usage_counter_health_payload(
     let now_unix_secs = chrono::Utc::now().timestamp().max(0) as u64;
     let snapshot = state
         .as_ref()
-        .data
-        .read_usage_counter_health()
+        .read_cached_usage_counter_health()
         .await
         .map_err(|err| GatewayError::Internal(err.to_string()))?;
     Ok(build_admin_usage_counter_health_payload(