feat(aether-proxy): 网络层全面优化与代理耗时追踪

aether-proxy:
- 新增 20+ 可配置参数：Aether API/delegate/CONNECT 各阶段超时、连接池、TCP keepalive/nodelay
- AetherClient 支持指数退避重试(可配置次数/延迟)和 HTTP/2
- 新增 DNS 缓存(TTL + 容量限制)避免重复解析
- 新增并发连接数限制(Semaphore，默认基于硬件估算)
- CONNECT 隧道增加建连超时和升级超时
- TLS 增加握手超时、会话缓存(session ticket + memory cache)、ALPN 协商
- 新增 ProxyMetrics 收集请求计数和延迟，通过心跳上报
- delegate 响应注入 X-Proxy-Timing 头(dns_ms/upstream_ms/total_ms)

后端:
- StreamContext 和 handler 提取 X-Proxy-Timing 写入 proxy_info 追踪数据

前端:
- 请求时间线展示代理分阶段耗时(DNS/上游)
- Endpoint 添加按钮改为文字按钮样式

aether-proxy/Cargo.lock

@@ -767,6 +767,25 @@ dependencies = [
  "wasm-bindgen",
 ]
 
+[[package]]
+name = "h2"
+version = "0.4.13"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "2f44da3a8150a6703ed5d34e164b875fd14c2cdab9af1252a9a1020bde2bdc54"
+dependencies = [
+ "atomic-waker",
+ "bytes",
+ "fnv",
+ "futures-core",
+ "futures-sink",
+ "http",
+ "indexmap",
+ "slab",
+ "tokio",
+ "tokio-util",
+ "tracing",
+]
+
 [[package]]
 name = "hashbrown"
 version = "0.16.1"
@@ -854,6 +873,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "bytes",
  "futures-channel",
  "futures-core",
+ "h2",
  "http",
  "http-body",
  "httparse",
@@ -1845,6 +1865,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "bytes",
  "futures-core",
  "futures-util",
+ "h2",
  "http",
  "http-body",
  "http-body-util",